Research shows that 58 percent of communication is through body language, 35 percent through vocal tone and intonation and a trivial 7 percent through the content of the message.
研究显示,58%的沟通是通过肢体语言,35%是通过语音语调,仅有微小的7%是通过信息。
Texting hides emotions. No one can hear the trembling or the anger in your voice. In matters of the heart, letting your fingers do the talking can cause more harm than good.
信息隐藏了情绪。没人能听到你声音中的颤抖或者愤怒。而对于内心来说,让手指来交流,弊大于利。
We have heard of people breaking up over messages that were misunderstood. On a lighter note, let’s admit we all have made embarrassing mistakes while texting on our phones because of wobbly finger gymnastics.
Boy: Any time. When’s the second date? I can’t wait to see your beautiful nipples.
男孩:我很荣幸。我们什么时候再见呢?我等不及想看到你漂亮的乳头了。
Oh, NO! I’m so sorry I meant dimples, my phone changed it.
噢,不是!很抱歉我想说的是美丽的酒窝!不小心按错了!
As victims of multi-tasking, we have even sent messages to the wrong people by mistake.
作为多任务的受害者,我们甚至不小心将信息发错了对象。
A friend of mine erroneously sent a flirtatious dating message to his friend instead of another girl.
我的一个朋友错误地将要发给一个女孩的轻浮的约会信息发给了一个朋友。
A foreigner kept exchanging texts in English with a Chinese girl until she finally agreed to meet him for dinner. To his utter shock, he discovered the girl’s spoken English was a complete disaster.
In contrast to face-to-face communication, texting encourages rapid-fire, single-sentence thoughts. It is possible that people who text a lot become uncomfortable with in-person communication. We don’t know what mood they are in at that moment because we can’t see them physically.
We can ignore messages or delay answering questions if we don’t like them, and we will never know how much we’ve hurt someone.
如果是我们不喜欢的,我们可以忽略信息,或者延迟回复,我们也永远不知道这有多伤人。
In face-to-face situations, we need to give an immediate response, otherwise it would be misconstrued as being rude or socially insensitive. There can also be linguistic and cultural barriers. Text messaging is unavoidable. But it is advisable to mix it up with some face-to-face interactions.